“It Was The Love”
Movies. I have watched a couple of movies recently that really touched me. Movies that had me coming away still thinking about them and I thought I would share some of those thought with you.
The first was called ‘The Intouchables’ – a 2011 movie and based on a true story – full of meaning and humor. It is about a quadriplegic who hires a young man to be his caregiver – who at first glance would not be your typical caregiver. This movie reminds us not to ‘judge a book by its cover’ in so many ways. First of all – the young man from the projects has more skills and abilities than those who are supposedly ‘qualified’ for such a position – but he also brings other things too. He tells it like it is and is very up front about everything. This is refreshing for the quadriplegic who is tired of the way people see and treat him. He appreciates that the young man doesn’t ‘see’ him as unable or crippled. He ‘sees’ him like anyone else.
The two men grow close and the story allows you to see how each one cares for the other in different ways. It also shows us that though our lives are busy and full – we shouldn’t forget those less capable of the simplest of things like walking or feeding ourselves. They still have life in them too. They still have feelings and desires and dreams. And, they have much to offer if we only slow down a bit and pay attention. And maybe that is why this movie touched me. Suffering from Fibromyalgia means that I am not able to participate in all of the things that I would love to do. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t want to be included or at least invited to activities. It doesn’t mean that I don’t want to spend time with my friends and family….but I may need to make some adjustments to when, where or how.
The second movie is a recent movie by Kirk Cameron called ‘Unstoppable’. I was excited when I heard this movie was coming out because I have really enjoyed the Christian movies that Kirk has been involved in such as ‘Fireproof’ – which was awesome! I have to say that I was initially disappointed in this one though. I appreciate Kirk’s efforts in what he was trying to get across…..but it just took too darn long to get there! My daughter and I kept sitting there wishing he would hurry up and get to the point. And honestly, there were some aspects of the movie that we never did understand the purpose of it – he must have been thinking on a much deeper level than we were – Ha! But I understand that he was trying to present this in a manner to help those who may not be Christians as well as food for thought to those who are Christians.
Ultimately, Kirk is trying to explain some sort of ‘answer’ to the age-old question of ‘Why did God allow (fill-in-the-blank tragedy) to happen?’ For instance, why do kids die of cancer or why did someone die in a car wreck. I’m not going to provide his ultimate explanation – which really leaves the viewer to draw their own conclusions – but I do have some thoughts about some of the things he mentioned.
First of all – he referenced cemeteries as being called ‘Gravegardens’ – and though I haven’t actually been able to find that specific terminology pertaining to cemeteries (I ran across Grave Fields once), I like the term. While using various stories from the bible he suggested that when one passes away we become seeds that scatter in the wind – and that it is part of the process for growing elsewhere. Basically he was saying that we all have a time here before moving on to the other.
But this triggered some other thoughts for me. I’m thinking – aren’t we supposed to ‘plant seeds’ in this life? So it seems to me that maybe we scatter the seeds and touch lives of others while we are here on this earth. We all have a specific ‘allotment’ for whatever God’s purpose is – and when we are done – is it our time to move on?
Think about it. Just think of how those miraculous children with cancer touch our lives. As a society we are always amazed at how strong they are and how happy they are though they are going through so much or how full of faith they always seem to be! They inspire us to be better. They cause people to consider their own belief systems and their own life situations. I firmly believe that they touch more lives in their limited lifespan than many of us who live many more years.
Everyone has a purpose – and maybe some don’t even realize what purpose they serve. But in the end – who is to say that they have not fulfilled their purpose and it is now time for them to move on to their next adventure with their Creator? Grave Gardens – where God’s flowers are planted so they can bloom into the next season.
Okay – maybe this sounds cheesy…..but I like it. I would rather think something like that than to try to ‘convince’ myself once more that ‘they are in a better place now’ and yet not feel comforted. We always say that don’t we? ‘They are in a better place’ or ‘They are no longer suffering’ – which does help some….to a point. But then what?
So for me I like this little picture I now have. I know that we will never understand God’s reasoning behind everything – but for me this helps to paint a picture that provides a bit more comfort in the ‘unknown’.
To sum it up – the movie/documentary is extremely slow at getting to the point. And then I’m not sure what the final outcome is for everyone – make up your own mind with the food-for-thought that Kirk provides. But I am glad that I watched it. I like that it provided some thoughts that had never occurred to me before. I like that it stuck with me afterwards……for me, that is a sign of a good movie!
SO – have you seen either movie? If you have – what are your thoughts?
I did it again. I let my faulty ‘auto-pilot’ kick in when an unexpected problem came up recently. I had to give myself a good talking to for sure! Good news though – I am learning to lean on my Father more and more. And though I may panic for a bit I continue to remind myself to stop and pray.
This year has been financially tougher than I’ve seen in several years. And I will be honest, as a result I’ve been a bit more emotional about it – I think a lot of it has to do with my Fibromyalgia giving me troubles so much. When one is in constant/chronic pain, you tend to find yourself weepy and depressed if you aren’t careful.
I try not to allow myself to ‘go there’ if you know what I mean. But sometimes when I’ve been working through the pain and staying strong for so long – if one more thing comes along, I lose it. I guess that is what happened this week.
As mentioned in previous posts I’ve had several learning experiences concerning my finances of late. To give a bit of history, I was not taught about money-handling, so I will be the first to tell you that looking back – I made bad choices throughout my life. The frustrating thing is that I get all straightened up and doing well financially and then get stupid. I allow the influence of others get to me and end up allowing them to blow through all of my money and even ruin my credit. Not their fault – it is mine.
But through this I am learning to lean on God. And I do. And He comes through. Every. Single. Time!
So this week, my phone crashed and burned – permanently. It is our only means of communication because I, like many others these days, did away with the landline (in order to save money). So I was freaking out about what I was going to do – I have a near-8-year old child – I need to be available for school calls, etc.
Once I calmed down – I decided to see if I could get one of my old dinosaur phones to work. I did and was back in operation within a very long and agonizing day. Whew!!
Two days later I come home to find that the furnace is no longer working at my home! So we borrowed an electric space heater and I turned the electric oven on for a bit – and we bundled up to keep warm. I lay in bed for hours not being able to sleep worrying about what in the world I was going to do. You see – we live literally paycheck to paycheck with a negative balance of about $300 in my bank account. I don’t have credit cards and no savings.
By morning I was a mess. But I kept reminding myself that God was in control and He has never let me down. I even felt guilty for having all of those negative, dooming ideas. I continued to pray and talk with God all the way to work.
When I got to work I asked someone for advice on what he thought the problem was and who I should contact for repairs. He gave me the info. I made the call – told them my situation. The man quoted me a price range of $200 – $500 (based on my description of the issue). So I requested that they just come out to do a diagnosis only. Once he came up with a solid figure – then I would determine what I was going to do.
You see, in addition to all of this financial mess I’m in – because I haven’t felt so great physically this year – I hadn’t even started buying Christmas gifts yet! So I was in a real pickle. To top it off – I felt I needed to do something special for my son this year (long story – will fill you in later).
In the meantime, I set about hitting the old ex-husband up for some of that child support that he was behind on and I needed. Though I didn’t get all that I asked for – he did come up with $200 for me. Then I went to my employer to request an advance on my paycheck that comes after Christmas – and they agreed. All along I was singing praises to God!
This morning my dad met the repair guy at the house. I left a blank check and told my dad that if the repairs were $300 or less to go ahead and pay it – and if it was more, to call me first. As it turned out – the total bill was $169.00!!!!!!!!!
Needless to say, I’ve been grinning ear-to-ear and thanking God over and over. I’ve also apologized for being a goober and lacking faith….again! Saying that you have faith and then worrying about things contradicts itself. I know that. And I don’t know why I keep stumbling….but I am working on it.
I’m so blessed – and so thankful. And I am His child!
Okay – this is totally changing gears here….but I want to get it down before I forget.
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about our world lately and the technology that we have. Where a lot of folks my age may grumble about what our world is coming to – I find that I am fascinated and inspired with the advances. I’m not going to get into all of the details – but wanted to mention a few that touch the lives of many. Just to let you younger folks realize how quickly things are progressing now:
Keeping mind that I am now 49 years old…..
My mother’s family was one of the first in their town to have a color television!
I have used the following for music: vinyl records, 8-track tapes, cassette tapes, Walkman, CDs, I-Pods
When I was a junior in high school I took computer programming classes – which was practically unheard of at that time. They had just started having home computers – but were not the norm for everyone. We used DOS. We bought a Radio-Shack TRS-80 computer. And we had a blast!
I remember when they first started having paperback books in the library! THAT was a treat! BTW – I now have a Kindle, thank you very much! And yes, I love it!
I seldom handwrite anything anymore….and that’s okay by me – I love email and Facebook and Twitter and Instagram and texting and more!
My 76 year old dad texts – awesome!!!
My mother was in her 60’s and was emailing and surfing the ‘net – how cool is that!? BTW – my dad operates an online business – Woohoo!
And I won’t even start with the automobiles – but let me tell you we didn’t have electric windows or locks when I first started driving.
Alright – enough of that – but I have to say I embrace all of enthusiasm that the younger folks have for advancing and seeking new things! I may be a bit slower….but I love it too!
Have a wonderful day and thanks for stopping by – come again!
I have posted about the detox I was trying. And I’m pretty sure I’ve mentioned how it didn’t work for me. Don’t get me wrong – I’m pretty sure it would have worked – but for whatever reason it did not do well with my Fibromyalgia. And though I was told that it was just a phase that my body was going through and it would pass – unfortunately I could not ride that wave out.
It triggered something that kicked my pain into gear and I have yet to get it under control. This has now been going on since May of this year. I have been in more pain than ever before. My Fibro Fog is back more than before. And for the most part it seems to be getting worse. I feel miserable.
But I have to tell you – I am hard headed and I don’t give up easily! So, I am determined to find a solution that works for me.
I stumbled across something on television and then started reading up on it on the internet that intrigues me. Hormone imbalance. So, I’m thinking I might check this out a bit more. I’ve acquired some supplements that supposedly helps to regulate certain things and we will see how it goes.
Though I’ve gained my weight back that I had lost through all of this – I am hopeful that if nothing else, this will at least help me to feel a little better.
Have you heard of this ridiculous game called “Knockout”? Can you believe that our youth are finding this entertaining and funny!? We have raised a generation of unfeeling, uncaring individuals. They are cruel and mean. Here is a link if you would like an up close and personal view of what this entails. I want to say more – but words escape me.
And here is a link to an article and video that shows just how dumb we’ve become – can’t see the forest for the trees kind of thing. Whether you agree or disagree with what the father of these children says — you have to admit that arresting this man for obstruction is stupid.
Can you believe that typhoon in the Philippines recently!? Scary, scary deal. My uncle’s wife has family there – it was a long and torturous wait to see if they made it out alive. Thank God they did – but they have no place to live now. And help was slow reaching them. I don’t believe people realize just how dangerous life is after such an event. There are gangs of people stealing and raping and doing whatever they want. And no one to protect the innocent. Can you imagine the horror that the children have seen? How does one ever get over it? How does it not haunt your dreams forever? Please pray for these poor people as recovery will take years I’m sure.
And finally, I watched a movie recently while taking care of my son (he had bronchitis) that really touched my heart. Where I was when ‘The Letter Writer‘ came out, I have no idea. But this movie is quite inspiring. If you haven’t seen it – do so – you will be glad that you did!
Okay – enough for now – I just wanted to touch base. I’ve wanted to blog more – but my Fibro Fog has me at a loss for words. But don’t give up on me – cause I’m not! I will be back 😀
So our government has shut down. I typically don’t get too involved or pay much attention to all of the b.s. that goes on in our political world anymore. It doesn’t really matter which group it is – it has become nothing more than who can bully the best and stomp their feet the most. It seems to me that everyone has forgotten what the real purpose of our government is supposed to be. People are so geared toward attacking what they deem to be the ‘other side’ that it really doesn’t matter what the issue is – they are simply set to argue.
I find it interesting (and sad, actually) that we the people continue to pay these people enormous amounts of money to do nothing more than act like little kindergartners. And – sadly we allow them to rule the playground with their bullying and their tantrums. I wonder when we the people will say enough is enough.
If you ask me – I think we should boot them all out and start over. And I don’t believe they should be paid any more than what they vote in that the average person in America will get paid. Make them actually work for a change. And, when you quit that job – you don’t get paid anymore – just like the rest of us.
I’m sorry, people – but come on! Let’s get real – if we had people in office that were just like you and I and the reason they were there wasn’t because of the power or the money – but simply because they cared – don’t you think we would be in better shape? I know that every now and then we get someone that we vote in that we feel will make that difference….but reality proves that one or two can’t make a big enough wave to knock the other greedy ones out. So let’s clean it all out and start fresh.
It is very similar to our justice system these days. I don’t believe that people get a fair shake in this area anymore either. Again, it’s a matter of whose lawyer can’t be the biggest bully or at least the most creative. The juries no longer hear all of the evidence – but only that which the lawyers couldn’t find a creative way to have it blocked out. Honestly – since when has it been deemed that one can make good and fair judgments and decisions without all of the information?
And why-oh-why do we have so many ‘rights’ for the accused to the point that the victim is again victimized by our own legal system? The way I see it – if you do the crime, you do the time….and it shouldn’t be a walk in the park.
Okay – so I got off track here a bit. But what I am getting at is that we have gone too far with all of these silly, childish antics from our government. Have you heard of some of the ‘government shut-downs’ of late? Tell me it’s not intentional when they cause privately owned businesses to shut down because the road or the parking lot leading the business is run by the government. They actually hired people to give out traffic tickets to people who stop on the side of the road to look at Mount Rushmore (since the park is closed)? The Vietnam War Memorial is privately funded – but again, they have hired guards (where there were none before) – just so they can be jerks about it knowing that we have Freedom Flights from all over this country scheduled to arrive. Huh?
All I can say is you have got to be an uncaring, silly individual to think that anyone in government is doing the right thing right now. It doesn’t matter which ‘side’ you are on, people – this boils down to common sense and decency….and apparently we have none. How embarrassing… I wonder what the other countries think of us now?
At least that is what our young people are being taught. Did you know? Yes, bullying is a huge topic and there are many efforts to put it out there in the public eye that bullying is wrong. BUT – have you checked out television lately?
Please understand I am not one to get on that bandwagon to say that television shows or music or video games will make our kids go out and do violent things. I do have opinions about all of that – but it is not the purpose of this post – so bear with me.
Just recently we all saw on the news where the motorcyclists harassed that little family in their SUV and then proceeded to seriously beat up the driver. My heart hurt to see how quickly something so minor escalated to the point that a man is beat in front of his child and is most likely going to be paralyzed for life – if he survives, that is. And can you imagine the impact of watching something like that for a small child? Ugh….it makes me sad….and angry…..and nauseous.
While thinking about how such a thing happens, my mind then wanders to bullying in general. Then it hits me. How can we expect people to act any different when we put it in their face that it is funny to be ugly acting?
I have a soon-to-be 8-year-old son at home and I try to monitor what he sees on television. I have to admit that I was not raised that way – we simply watched what we wanted. Of course back then, you didn’t see much that was inappropriate. These days I feel you need to keep an eye and an ear towards the television if your child is watching.
In the past week, here are some of my observations about the shows in general:
· You see harsh critiquing of other people’s attire or overall appearance – on live television – not a kind piece of advice, but outright ugly and embarrassing comments while the person is standing there in front of thousands of people
· On multiple afternoon kids’ shows you see young people being extremely sarcastic and rude to others – and the producers then plug in laughter soundtracks – so it comes across as funny
· Again on multiple kids’ shows you can see youth being outright disrespectful and often mean to adults – again with the laughter plugged in to make it funny
· You see slamming doors in others’ faces – laughter soundtrack included
· You will see hitting or throwing things at others – with laughter plugged into the soundtrack
· The practical jokes that you see people playing on each other on the kids’ shows are not harmless – in reality they would be very hurtful, sometimes potentially dangerous – but, let’s plug in the laughter track to make it innocent fun
· Seldom will you see repercussions for such actions
· You can often see the kids lying and being deceitful to others – and again there is always laughter
· You see people destroying the property of other people – and it comes across as funny or justified
· On one very popular show – you can see someone in a teacher/coach role who is always undermining others – and you see her saying very, very mean and ugly things to them – and you never see anything that teaches that this is improper behavior – just more laugh tracks
· When is the last time you’ve seen a show for the younger crowd that doesn’t contain a lot of yelling? (Followed by laughter track)
· And yes, there are all of the sex and offensive language on there too
Are you starting to see the picture? If society is bombarded with this type of behavior why wouldn’t they act in similar fashion? Yes, I believe we are to teach our children right from wrong – but let’s face it folks, when things are put out there in front of you constantly – you become numb to the impact of it.
Back in the day – they didn’t allow kissing on television….or blood….or cursing. Then that changed and it was allowed – who gives it a second thought now? Are you shocked to see someone kiss? I doubt it. Are you shocked to hear a cuss word these days? Maybe, maybe not depends on your age or maybe the word.
I believe we are losing empathy these days. It makes my heart hurt. I feel sadness for the true fun and innocence that my child will not experience in the ways that we did years ago.
Don’t get me wrong – I am an advocate for the technology that we have these days. I enjoy some of the advancements that we have made and we owe much of it to our younger folks. So I’m not one of those to say that the world is going to hell-in-a-hand-basket as the saying used to go. But I do wish that we might back up just a tad on some of the things that we are flooding our eyes and ears with and simply enjoy a little peace and love towards others a little more.
What do you think?
I’m frustrated with society – or is it just my life? I know that I get a bit grumpy when I’m tired. Or when I’m hurting (Fibro-pain)…..and I have definitely been hurting this week. It’s been pretty bad, actually. And forgive me if something isn’t spelled correctly or my words get jumbled – that happens a lot with the Fibro-fog.
But I don’t think that the above-mentioned symptoms are the reason for my frustration of late. And I find myself extremely tired. No – not lack-of-sleep tired…..but rather tired of all of the complaining and nit-picking that people want to do. Yes, I know that many times it is as simple as removing oneself from a situation so as not to participate in all of the negativity…..but sometimes that is just not feasible.
All I know is that I am so very, very tired of everyone complaining. If you have followed my blog much – you know about my Fibromyalgia. Yes, I have it and yes, I am in pain – often. But I don’t go around whining and complaining to people about it all of the time. I mention it as it is part of who I am now. I deal with it and continue on in my life the best way I can. Sometimes I have to make adjustments to my plans or miss work due to it – I hate that…..but it is what I do in order to continue on in life. It is what it is.
Someone told me one time that they were amazed with everything I have been through in my life that I was not be a bitter person. And I remember my mother saying that she couldn’t understand why I wasn’t angry at my ex-husband (she was – very much so). I said to them and still tell people that I figure I have a choice here. I can choose to do the best with what I have and try to live a life of quality or I can wallow in self-pity about what I don’t have and be miserable. To me I don’t see a good reason to waste all of my energy hating and being angry or bitter about things I cannot control.
And sometimes, people – even if it could be changed, you have to look at whether it really is worth all of your time and energy. Is using up your resources really worth it in the long run? Will you be adding to your quality of life or taking away from it? Will your kids/loved ones be robbed of your time because you are so focused on the bad stuff? What about your health? If you stress over things long enough you develop serious health issues (I know this first-hand).
Let’s take a look at this Boston couple in the news right now who are fighting to have the Pledge of Allegiance taken out of the schools because it mentions God. They are claiming that they do not believe in God. And therefore if they say the Pledge – they are stating something they do not believe and if they choose not to say the Pledge then they ‘come across as’ not being patriotic. Regardless of where one stands on this debate I guess I don’t see why people can’t simply use their heads a little.
If the majority of people do want to say the Pledge and they do believe in God or at least it doesn’t bother them – then I wonder why one would think it is reasonable to waste their time, the court’s time, not to mention money to have something like this addressed? If it were me, I would say the line in the Pledge as follows: “And to the republic, for which it stands”, (pause – while everyone else says ‘one nation under God’), “indivisible, with Liberty and Justice for all.” You get the picture? I guarantee you that no one is going to notice that you took a breath or paused or whatever during that one little clause. Done. No anger, no fighting, no wasting resources on anyone’s part. Move on.
It seems like people are getting some sort of adrenaline rush by jumping on the bandwagon to accuse others of the tiniest things anymore. And I wonder why. It’s exhausting and honestly disheartening to me. Has it always been this way, I wonder? Maybe as young kids we just didn’t notice it? Or maybe we didn’t see things that way until others bring it to our attention….
I remember observing this with my own daughter when she was young. She met her best friend in preschool. And he is of a different race than she. But she didn’t know that – all she knew was that he was her best friend (and at 21 years of age now, they are still very close friends). It wasn’t until they had a teacher in the 1st grade that treated him differently that she asked me why.
And it doesn’t have to be a media issue either (though they certainly create a lot of it). How about the workplace? I’m SO very tired of people gossiping and stabbing each other in the back. Yes, there is always going to be that one person – that one person that you simply cannot like no matter what. But that’s okay – it is not part of your job description to like everyone. You were hired to do a specific job – and most likely that means dealing with a variety of people. So do it. It really is possible to be cordial to people that you don’t really care for, trust me.
I have even lost one of my best friends because I chose not to participate in her constant negativity and coworker bashing. If she complained or said something ugly, I would either try to change the subject or state that maybe the situation wasn’t as it appeared. It ticked her off. The final straw was when I was invited to church by a coworker that she despised. I accepted the invitation and was later told by my best friend that she simply could not ever ‘forgive me’ for betraying her. That ended a 12+ year friendship.
If you read any article these days – with the lovely ability to leave comments and most likely you will find some of the meanest, cruelest, ugliest comments. Many times it doesn’t even fit what the story was about. Example: I wanted to check out the story behind Google’s Doodle for the day. But rather than people finding the story interesting – they all jump on the bandwagon of criticizing one typo in the article. It’s one thing to critique and another to simply be ugly. So…making someone feel inferior gives people a rush, I guess? And we wonder why there are so many hate-crimes these days.
It’s like we can’t get away from it! It is everywhere……and this is why my family and I often joke around about heading for the hills…..to get away from all of the chaos. But I would challenge people to take a long hard look at their attitudes and the part they are playing in the big picture – because how can we expect our young people to be kind and to love one another when we are constantly bombarded with the opposite? When there are very few places to go to escape the ugliness it eventually rubs off on you.
Okay – so I can’t end this post without circling back around to say that though I am frustrated with society as a whole – I still have my eyes on my Savior and He allows me to see the good in people. And yes, there are a lot of good folks out there. And though it seems that the positive is being covered up by the negative, His light will always shine. He protects. And He blesses. All we have to do is claim Him as our own and invite Him into our lives.
Thanks for stopping by……Kelly.
Gratitude List (in no particular order):
1. I have a job – it pays the bills
2. My beautiful daughter & son-in-law
3. My super-awesome son
4. My Dad – who is always there no matter what
5. My Brother & his family – live so far away, but always near in my heart
6. God’s grace
7. Breathtaking sunrises
8. Nourishing rain
9. New Bible Study Group
10. My home – provides shelter that we need